Derby Sands “ALWAYS LOVED NEVER FORGOTTEN” Baby Memorial Garden Our beautiful Baby Memorial Garden was officially opened on Sunday June 29th 2014 by Charles Hanson at a beautiful service led by Lou Evans (Chair of Derby Sands) and Marise Hargreaves (Chaplain, Royal Derby Hospital) The Memorial garden is situated in a secluded woodland area at Markeaton Crematorium, Markeaton Lane, Derby, DE22 4NH. The garden is accessible 365 days a year during the normal opening times of the crematorium grounds. The idea for our memorial came from Louisa Evans, in 2010, approximately one year after the stillbirth of her daughter Lauren. “I was chatting to some elderly friends whose baby was stillborn in the 1960’s. I was horrified to hear that the parents never even had the chance to see, hold or even name their baby. The baby was just whisked away as if she had never existed and the parents were expected to go home and forget about what had happened. They never had the opportunity to acknowledge their baby’s existence or to grieve openly for their loss. They carried their heartbreak with them through the decades and never felt at peace or as if they had any closure. I knew then that I wanted Derby Sands to provide somewhere beautiful and peaceful where families can go and remember and reflect on their loss, particularly those who lost a baby many years ago”. Lou went on to become Chair of Derby Sands in 2011 and on behalf of Derby Sands commissioned local artist Rachel Carter ( to design and create the memorial and garden. It took almost four years to raise the £35,000 needed to fund the project and Derby Sands would like to thank every single person, family, business and organisation who has helped them reach their target. In particular, a huge thank you to Kuehne+Nagel (Draycott in the Clay), Sainsbury’s (Wyvern Way, Chaddesden) and the Mayor of Derby for their incredibly generous donations. Rachel created the stunning hand-crocheted cane cocoon sculpture and flower depository and Paul Fletcher from HTF Stainless Steel created the beautiful stainless steel butterfly and framework for the cocoon and flower depository. Bob Neill, painstakingly engraved (using pyrography) and varnished all 170 of the name petals, each bearing the names of a baby who has died before, during or after birth. The names date back to 1946. Brookhill Landscapes created the garden area with the help of the Gary Marshall (Bereavement Services Manager Derby City Council), Sheena Ratcliffe (Assistant Bereavement Services Manager) and the groundsmen from Nottingham Road Cemetery. “On behalf of Derby Sands I would like to say an absolutely huge thank you to everyone who has been involved in the planning, design and creation of our beautiful memorial and garden. In particular, a million thank you’s to Rachel Carter and Sheena Ratcliffe for all the hard work, sensitivity and emotion that they have put into our project. And of course a massive thank you to all those who played a role in our wonderful opening service, who helped behind the scenes to ensure the whole event went smoothly and who attended this landmark event. The comments and compliments that have been coming in since the opening are just incredible. Most importantly, our community now has this stunning garden and memorial, to honour and acknowledge all of our babies: a beautiful, peaceful garden to visit, reflect and remember, regardless of how long ago your baby died” Application to have a Baby’s Name on the Derby Sands Memorial Names will be added to the memorial on a six monthly basis, in approximately June and December. The Derby Sands memorial is specifically for babies who have died during pregnancy, during birth or in the first hours, weeks or first months of life. We would love to include babies / children but sadly due to space limitation we have to have a strict criteria for inclusion. If you fulfil one of the criteria below then please fill in the form and email it back to us. You are a current or past member of Derby Sands Your baby was born and/or died at Derby City Hospital now known as the Royal Derby Hospital (at / after 16 weeks gestation), at home in Derby or in one of the maternity homes that previously existed in and around Derby Your baby / grandchild / brother or sister died at another location in the country but you are now a permanent resident in Derby (or surrounding areas) Download the form by clicking here or from the opening page of the website. Please fill in ALL sections of the form Attach the form to an email and send it to this address: Alternatively you can send the details to Lou Evans, C/O 123 Portreath Drive, Allestree, Derby, DE22 2SB. We will acknowledge receipt of your form and confirm that your baby’s name will be on the memorial. It may take up to 14 days for you to receive a reply. If you do not fulfil any of the criteria above but strongly feel that your baby should be on our Derby Sands memorial then you can write to us at the email address above.
Supporting anyone affected by the death of a baby and promoting research to reduce the loss of babies’ lives
Created by Barry Thompson © 2010 - 2019 Derby Sands, all rights reserved
Made with Xara
5 April 2019
Charity registration number 299679
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The Official Opening of our Second Derby Sands Butterfly Memorial, April 15th 2018 Our Derby Sands “Always Loved Never Forgotten” baby memorial garden opened on June 29th 2014 with 155 babies names displayed on a beautiful cocoon shaped memorial – designed and created by local artist, Rachel Carter. On April 10th 2016, with 300 baby’s names already displayed on the cocoon memorial we opened our stunning butterfly memorial, designed and created once again by Rachel Carter. Bertie the Butterfly is loved by all who visit the garden and so we decided that our next memorial would be a second butterfly. In 2017, Derby Sands received an unexpected donation and it was agreed with the donors that this would fund a second butterfly memorial. On April 15th, 2018 Lou Evans led a memorial service in the garden where Kate Ives (Chair of Derby Sands) and Rachel Carter officially opened our second butterfly. 13 families were also in attendance and were the first to place their babies name petals on the memorial. Of course we couldn’t have had our new memorial if it weren’t for the incredible generosity of those who funded it - the Whitehurst family and their friends. Their amazing donation funded the entire memorial and in acknowledgement of this, our new butterfly is affectionately known as Georgie, in loving memory of Mr George Whitehurst who passed away in 2016 and his baby son John, who was born asleep in 1974. We would all like to offer our heartfelt thanks to the Whitehurst’s and their friends, for the incredible gift they have given which will benefit so many bereaved families. With special thanks to Rachel Carter for creating yet another incredible sculpture for our garden. We would also like to thank HTF Stainless Steel Fabrication Limited for providing the stainless steel framework for Georgie and Trowell Garden Centre for donating a lovely space for Rachel to weave Georgie. We hope that our garden will continue to provide a beautiful haven for families to reflect on their loss and remember their baby / babies. Derby Sands has received amazing feedback from visitors to the garden and requests continue to come in for names to be added. Lou Evans, May 2018